Would you date someone you met on social media? Rebecca Eu, Ameer Jumabhoy, Cheryl Wee and Jessica Nasr share their opinions on the great debate.
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Above Rebecca Eu

Yes

The touch-and-go pace we follow today has changed how we conduct business just as it has changed how we date. It isn’t difficult to find someone who has tried online dating and I, too, feel it’s worth a try. It can seem more difficult to navigate than Mustafa Centre, but anything new and relatively unknown always is, and it also pushes you out of your comfort zone. If you go in with an open mind and take along the values of respect, honesty and sincerity, it can be a great way to meet people you normally wouldn’t have a chance to.

Yes, situations could roll out like those seen on the Instagram account @tindernightmares. But just as we can’t generalise that all durians taste the same, we shouldn’t do that with everyone online. Ask friends who have tried online dating about their experiences, and it might feel less foreign. We all owe ourselves a chance to be bolder!

Daughter of Eu Yan Sang non-executive chairman Richard Eu, Rebecca is a social media buff and budding social entrepreneur with plans to start an online retail business supporting female victims of human trafficking in the Philippines

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Above Jessica Nasr

Yes

It does not really matter where or how you meet someone. What matters is how you connect with that person. Dating apps are prevalent and so popular today because they help individuals to connect with so many people, probably many more people than they would through traditional methods of socialising. You may even get to connect with people whom you might never get a chance to meet outside of social media platforms. An advantage with dating apps is that you can filter potential “candidates” quickly and efficiently. While it’s true that this takes away the mystery and romance of traditional dating, people just don’t have time for that anymore. 

I personally prefer to go on a face-to-face date and I think that most progress to that after the initial online dating. However, I have friends who met their partners through online platforms and are now happily married. On the flipside, I have also heard horror stories of dates, both initiated through social media and face-to-face, gone wrong. I guess there is a bit of luck and patience involved, and regardless of where you find love, affairs of the heart cannot be rushed.

Director of marketing and communications of jewellery house Mouawad’s operations in Asia, Jessica loves being surprised, and appreciates when her partner shows effort and thought in anything he does

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Above Ameer Jumabhoy

No

I’m not a fan of online dating because I believe that relationships are and should be private. However, everyone has a different style and approach to dating, which should be wholly respected. In my view, being active on a mobile dating app like Tinder or OkCupid broadcasts to people that you’re looking for an expedited solution to dating and also, that the most important impression to you is a surface-level view on appearance. 

Photographs do not give us an accurate view of a person’s views, habits, personality, hopes and dreams. For me, just 10 per cent of what would seal a relationship is down to physical attractiveness, while I’d attribute 80 per cent to her personality—her intrinsic self—and another 10 per cent to how well she and my family get along. Technology already plugs so many aspects of our lives. Why should we let it govern some of our most intimate feelings as well? 

Despite carrying a well-known family name and being a brand ambassador of Argentine polo fashion label La Martina, Ameer strongly believes in keeping his love and personal life out of the public eye

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Above Cheryl Wee

No

I believe it’s important to better acquaint oneself, especially in person, with the other party before expressing an interest in them or agreeing to go out on a date together. With that human-to-human interaction, you’ll get a more accurate sense of their intentions and real personality, which may be very different from their online persona. As much as social media and apps such as Tinder and Couple have brought people closer, overcome physical distances, reconnected long-lost friends, and in some cases, led to true love and marriage, ours may just be the most antisocial generation yet that’s closer to our phones than anything or anyone else. 

I’m a supporter of good old-fashioned romance. By that, I mean putting the personal touch into nurturing a possible relationship—something no app or technology can replace. The sincerity that is expressed by putting pen to paper to write a letter, or overcoming jitters to personally ask someone out on a date also embodies sentimental value. Then there’s the whole range of feelings that are ignited in face-to-face interactions. These are the stuff of powerful memories of a lifetime. Initiating a date from behind a computer or mobile phone on the other hand does not enable the same kind of deep communion and connection which traditional wooing methods bring. At the end of the day, wouldn't a real life story with heartfelt human-to-human exchanges that go beyond smart phones and emails be sweeter and far more memorable?

Cheryl, who is an actress and the daughter of recognised businesswoman Jean Yip appreciates the connectivity that social media brings, but when it comes to affairs of the heart, she prefers old-school dating habits right down to the guy making the first move

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